Mark and Dividend Tree came back with a loud thundering NO. Ancella and Tip Guy said they will lend me some money, and Mayank had another credit card scheme for me. Not one person gave me a loving embrace and told me that they would lend me every last penny they had.
The interesting part is that this question was based on a friend’s real life situation.
When he was approached for a loan, he was sure that he is not going to loan out any money. The chances of repayment looked bleak, and what with the recession and everything, he figured he might need the money himself.
Yet, in the end, he ended up loaning out about half the sum.
Why – because he couldn’t say no. That’s it, plain and simple, he couldn’t say no. He may need the money, he doesn’t think it is going to come back to him, but he couldn’t say no.
That’s a problem a lot of us face; we just can’t bring ourselves to say no. If you Google up “how to say no” – you will find 184 million helpful responses.
Google will even suggest that you search for the more relevant – “how to say no without feeling guilty” (because that’s what you are really looking for) and once you do that, it will present you with slightly less than a million results.
All this makes me think that there are a lot of people who are troubled by the prospect of saying no. And also, that a lot of people have faced such situations and have devised their own ways to deal with it.
By now, I am sure you know what the question of the day is, but I have to ask, so here goes:
How will you say no to me?
Will you be direct and tell me that you are not going to lend me money because I don’t stand a chance to repay you? Or will you be tactful and not so direct, and present me with a credible excuse for not lending?
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